Monthly Archive: February 2012


Feb 22

3/4 Flexible versus Rigid FOO and Conflict Solutions

 So far in this series on Personality Issues when facing conflicts, we have been looking at the Family or Origin Differences. 

We have discussed how important your Family background is when learning to resolve conflicts.  As we have seen every area of your relationship with our partner is influenced by the family we first knew. 

We have also included a personal worksheet as an example for your own FOO model.


Feb 15

12/1 Practical Case Study & Resources

It always helps to see how the basic principles of conflict resolution apply in real life. We have tried and make this Blog on Conflict Solutions as practical as possible.

To help, I have included a Case Study involving two people, from two very different Family of Origins and backgrounds.  Add on top of that, we have a male – Jacko – and a female – Chelsea.

We’ll present Chelsea and Jacko as an example of healthy solutions when conflict hits their relationship.

Feb 02

3/3 Disconnected/Enmeshed FOO and Conflict Solutions

Young Father

We have been discussing the factors that influence how you view and handle Conflict Solutions.  So far we have been talking about the impact of the Family of Origin on our Conflict Styles.  Then we went onto how our basic personality influences how we face and resolve conflicts.

In this post, we continue the theme on our FOO and their influence on conflict resolutions.

A.  Our view of all relationships is influenced by the closeness or distance in our FOO.

Feb 01

3/2 Conflict Solutions and our Family of Origin

girl with seashells

In this second post on our Third series of Personality Issues that influence Conflict Solutions, we venture into the complex area of your Family of Origin, or FOO for short. 

Did you read our practical case study enough so you can see the challenges facing our two people?  In this post, we want to examine how our Family of Origin contributes to the happiness – or lack of happiness – in finding Conflict Solutions.

A.  What is our ‘Family of Origin’?

1.   To begin with, our Family of Origin (or FOO) refers to that first and most lasting impact on our views of ourselves.