Monthly Archive: March 2013


Mar 21

4/27 Summary for Conflict Solutions – Communication

couple - communication skillsWelcome back to our concluding post on Conflict Solutions!  In this category, we have been presenting how much communication styles influence conflict. 

This huge topic started with your ‘Family or Origin’ as the first and greatest imprint for handling conflict.  The first five years of your life are the most important when looking at your ‘Conflict Style’. 

As you watched how your parents and siblings handled conflict – or often avoided facing conflict – remains ingrained in your thinking and actions.  However, as an adult, this ‘conflict style’ need not be set in concrete.  We can learn new patterns and new ways of relating with others.  This has been the reoccurring theme of our blog.

Mar 06

4/26 Conflict Solutions – Males and Females are created to be Different

 girl with glassesWe begin this part of our Conflict Solutions blog by tracing how some of the common conflicts happen between males and females in our world. The first major point we all need to accept and integrate into our relationships between the sexes is that Creator God made Males and Females to be Different!

Here is a funny story to show the common view of males and females:

“One day while walking on a beach, a man found a bottle. Rubbing the sand from the bottle, a genie awaited his requests. The man thought for a minute and finally said: ‘Because I like to travel to New Zealand, would you build a bridge for me to get there easily?’  The genie looked very doubtful.


Mar 27

4/25 Catching the Conflict before it Happens for good conflict solutions

family or originAs we continuing to look at how we all handle conflicts, we find there are three main

A.  Most of us handle conflict using the following conflict styles:

1.  Avoidance, Withdrawal or Denial

Ignoring or pretending conflict didn’t happen.  Such repression will only allow conflict to surface somewhere else at another time.  People in denial usually just give in to conflict, become a doormat.

2.  Defusion, Smoothers

This includes delaying tactics, resolving minor points without dealing with root issues.  This produces frustration and a build up of problems.

3.  Confrontation or Domination


Mar 04

YouTube – 10 Tactics of Passive Aggressive Anger Conflict Styles

Here is another interesting YouTube presentation by Tom Joseph as he discusses the Top-10 Tactics used by those with Passive Aggressive Anger.

This was uploaded by Tom Joseph on May 29, 2009.  For more videos, check into his YouTube site.


 Susanne Fengler. Blog Author