Monthly Archive: July 2015


Jul 17

6/39 The Question of Headship and Submission with Conflict Solutions

Jesus modelled what it means to be’ the head’.

childhood beliefs about conflictIn Christian circles we are often told that the ‘wife must submit to the husband as the head’, but what does this mean?  It is actually easy to explain, because Jesus is our model for headship.  Misunderstanding headship and submission has hurt a lot of Christians.  Keep in mind how Adam and Eve messed things up.

“Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”  (1 Corinthians 11:3 NIV)  In fact if husbands are not considerate and protective, then God is not interested in meeting the man’s needs.


Jul 10

Conflict Solutions presents a worksheet on the book ‘Love & Respect’

Recently a great friend shared her notes from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his Love and Respectwife Sarah’s book Love and Respect.  Here is a practical worksheet to remember what the book explains.


“C-O-U-P-L-E” is code for what she needs!

ClosenessAm I always remembering to mover toward her and accept her need to talk and connect with me to be reassured of my love?

Openness Do I share my thoughts with her, and am I sure I’m not resisting her efforts to draw me out? Understanding – Am I careful not to try to “fix” her every time she talks about one of her concerns or problems? Am I remembering that she is an integrated personality and whatever happens affects all of her, especially her emotions?

Jul 10

Love and Respect for Conflict Solutions

Since we are continuing the theme of relationships with people,

A Message That Works:

Based on over three decades of counselling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, Sarah, have already taken the Love and Respect message across America.

That message is changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other. What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect.


Jul 08

6/38 Emotional Needs are Expressed Differently for Males and Females

One of the major areas where men do not know how to interact properly with women is in the area of rejection_1emotional protection. This area includes emotional ‘touch’ as listed above but more specifically involves respecting female emotions and listening to them in a non-judgmental way.

Most Women need to Talk

Women have an in-built need to talk. It is a very healthy thing, which most men don’t understand. Women need to talk for at least three reasons:

God designed their brains to be relationship / communication oriented. Many studies have proven this from a scientific point of view. Therefore female culture will also contribute to sharing and caring.


Jul 01

6/37 Conflict Solution Presents an overview of Male Female Difference

 So far in our series, we have begun to sort through some of the things our dad didn’t tell us about the 3 girls family conflictsopposite sex – mostly because he didn’t know the topic very well himself.  Sad to say, few people take the time to learn enough deep wisdom to pass onto the next generation.  Blame, guilt, unforgiveness, regret – and the list could go on – stop wisdom reaching the next generation.

The following are  few areas left open to discussion, and hopefully adding wisdom to replace ignorance, assumption or half-truths and blind judgement.

Cultural Differences