Monthly Archive: June 2016


Jun 13

Series 1/11 Ignorance is never a Foundations for Conflict Solutions

When partners have not learned to be real with each other, a sense of dullness sets in. Here are our couple later in the week:male female differences

Priscilla: “So how was your day, Mickey?”
Mickey: “Oh, OK.”
Priscilla: “Wasn’t today the day you were going to ask for that raise in pay?”
Mickey: “Hhuuummm, yes.” (absently minded)
Priscilla: “So ….what happened? (looking out the window)
Mickey: “I’m waiting for a better time.” (Sidestepping her real question)
Priscilla: “Have you given up then….? (Voice raised)
Mickey: “Where we are going for dinner then? (Avoiding any further conflict)
Priscilla: “Why have you changed your mind then?”
Mickey: “Ahh, haven’t …..”
Priscilla: “Don’t you think ….”
Mickey: “Let’s not talk about this anymore.” (growing angry)
Priscilla:”OK, OK, OK” (equally angry but biing her tongue to stop the words.
Both walk out the door, ignoring the other.
So our couple continue down the path of resisting any conflict, afraid of the consequences. The fear of approaching anything meaningful follows their evening, despite the deepening feelings for each other.