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Yearly Archive: 2017

Aug 03

1/12 Conflict Resolutions asks us to Question the word ‘Fighting’.

1/12 Conflict Resolutions asks us to Question the word ‘Fighting’.

The first hurtle for honest conflict resolution is to question the word ‘Fighting’. Many couples resist the assumptions that this word seems to convey. It has been taboo or ‘gentlemanly’ to expose one’s true concerns. It is better to talk about ‘silly arguments’ or differences rather than face the real issues.

The word ‘fighting’ also makes people uncomfortable as images of aggression block true communication. Control of one’s anger is consider mature and so it is but at what cost. However, learning to express these inner frustrations is far more mature. Pricilla might say “Mickey I love you too much to fight with you. You know that by now.” Act nice no matter what your feelings has become their goal.

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