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Jan 23

Introduction to our Case Study for Conflict Solutions

We have tried and make this Blog on Conflict Solutions as practical as possible.  To help, I have included a Case Study involving two people, from two very different Family of Origins and backgrounds.  Add on top of that, we have a male – Jacko – and a female – Chelsea.

First off all, a bit about Chelsea:

Chelsea was born in Littleville, Ohio (very small town), youngest of 3 daughters.  Her Mother was diagnosed as bipolar when Chelsea was 10.  She grew up with a protective, supportive dad but the whole family is emotionally distant from mum.  She worked her way through University, has her law clerk degree with possibilities of going into law as profession.

She is well liked at work for her ‘team-work thinking’.  She is independent, introvert, shy with a few good friends outside family circle.  Now, at 32, she lives on her own and has few male relationships.  Chelsea likes to keep to a budget and does that well.  She also enjoys reading, scrapbooks and movies with girlfriends.

Chelsea has learned good debating skills from her Dad and insists on ‘truth’ and resolving issues.  She is very ready for a family and settling down.  However, Mum’s comments about males has left her cautious, self-conscious and inhibited about her body and sex, although she has the looks that do attract male attention.

Once she attended a local church but reacted to the ‘male-orientation’ leadership.  She would call herself conservative, romantic at heart, waiting patiently for ‘the right one’.

Now about Jacko –

Jacko was born in Chicago, Illinois (a very, very large town) as the first 3 brothers, played High School and University Football.  He was recruited early by major league team, playing footy now for 5 years.  His whole family is very sports knowledgeable and supports his efforts.  Now at 35, he’s at the top of his team, competitive, enjoys all sports.

There has always been an emotionally distance between parents.  His Dad was an absent, workaholic dad and ‘do-it-all’ mum, who manages their home and their lives.  Jacko has had mostly male input all his life with little real interaction with females.

He is also very independent, handsome, extrovert, outgoing and used to plenty of money.  With his success has come a huge following of friends – especially female – team members and the media.  He is definitely the hero of the town!

As you would guess, he has had plenty of experience in the girlfriend area but none who stayed the distance.  He is very self-confident with his body and male needs.  Jacko is from a nominal Catholic background.  He has very little interest in ‘getting to the bottom of things’, but rather avoids conflict.  He still wanting to climb mountain tops, skydiving and racing cars in Austria.

Can you see the differences in their Family of origin, their male/female differences and the way they handle money?  What about friends, spiritual beliefs,  sexual expectations and experiences?  Then how do they handle their conflict solutions based on their Family examples?

 Susanne Fengler, Blog Author

PS  We have included this case study to the right of this page so you can keep tract of the issues as we discuss them.  Please remember that this is a totally ‘made-up’ story and doesn’t reflect on anyone you think you may know.

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