Conflict and Relationship Expectations

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5/25 Website of the Month – Marriage Revolution by Debra White Smith

Posted by on August 20, 2013 at 2:24 am

Breaking Free from Your Family of Origin

Debra White Smith writes as an Author for ‘Marriage Revolution’, Monday, male female tug of warApril 07, 2008

Debra’s comments are based on the Passage: Genesis 2:20-25

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:24 KJ

  There can be no cleaving without leaving. A husband and wife cannot fully join to each other until they have severed dependence on their families of origin. While connection with extensive family networks can be a great source of support and encouragement, they were never meant to be a controlling factor in the lives of a married couple.

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5/24 A Relationship Profile on Conflict Solutions

Posted by on August 11, 2013 at 6:46 am

ResourcesConsider the following statements about your relationship with your partner.  This is a profile FOR YOUR EYES ONLY.  You will not be asked to share it with anyone.  It is only for your own private consideration.  Be honest and go with your first reactions.  You do not need to spend an excessive amount of time on each item. 

Rate yourself in Column A.  Then rate what you think that your partner thinks about you in column B, using a 0 to 5 scale:

Rate the statement on a 0 = “This is not true for us.” to 5 = “This is very true for us.”

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5/23 Life Law #5: “You can’t change what you won’t Acknowledge.”

Posted by on August 9, 2013e-mail at 3:08 am

Life Stratagies - McGrawWe continue with the Life Law series from Dr. Phil McGraw’s book on ‘Life Strategies’ with the topic of ‘You can’t change what you won’t Acknowledge’.  We have covered other parts of his book and his ‘life laws’ in previous posts.  Life Law #2:  “You either get it or you don’t.” 

Then we talked about ‘Payoffs.  From there, we shared Dr. Phil’s Life Law #3: “You Create your own Experience’.

 In this post, we continue with Dr. Phil’s lessons on finding the kind of life you want:

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5/22 Tips for having a successful relationship – Mantalk

Posted by on July 31, 2013 at 7:51 ammarketing

One of the most interesting series of video is the ‘Man Talk’, uploaded by   SupDaily06 in January, 2012.  The theme is one everyone would be familiar with … forgive those around you.

 

We hope  you found this as interesting and challenging as we did!

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author

www.conflictsolutions.mentorsnotebook.com

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5/21 The 10 Common Myths about having a great Marriage

Posted by on July 24, 2013 at 2:27 amlanguage

fidelity couple2If we have grown up watching movies about happy endings or reading the latest romance novels, we can get the wrong idea about relationships and marriage. 

We might then begin to have those expectations of people around us.  We might really believe that life is a ‘happily ever after’ fairy tale.  However as most of us have learned, the wedding is the easier part because the marriage takes work!

Here are 10 of the most common myths when people have unreal expectations about relationships and marriage:

Myth No. 1:      “A great relationship means you have to think alike on every issue.”

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5/20 Conflict Solutions and the Household Duties

Posted by on July 18, 2013 at 12:46 am

couple6The issues in who does what around the home is one of the crisis points for many relationships.  ‘You never clean the toilet!’ …or    ‘You never clean the car!’ can be heard in many houses.  So what are the roles in running a house and who does what in your home?

Who takes the responsibility for the household and outside duties, for discipline and raising the children, for finances, communication and planning style, for initiating sex and personal pleasure or for long range planning?

Print off this post if it helps you sort through the issues of conflict over duties.

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5/19 Understanding Payoffs in Conflict Solutions

Posted by on July 11, 2013 at 5:46 am

In this post we want to talk about a concept we often find in Counseling and Mentoring: “Why do people do what they?”

Life Stratagies - McGrawDr Phil McGraw answers this question with his ‘Life Law #4: “People do what works.”   People do what they do because of ‘Payoffs’.  Think about the concept and begin to see other’s actions actions in the understanding personal payoff.  It might take some thinking but it’s well worth the time and energy to help see other’s through different eyes.

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5/18 Conflict Solutions looks at ‘What do you to Want to Change?’

Posted by on July 9, 2013 at 12:33 am

women with glassesAs we continue to look at relationships, especially those between spouses, we can ask the Question: “What do you want to change in your relationship?

Life is all about change! 

Have you noticed that?  Some changes are exactly what you want because you started and finished the process.  Other changes just have to do with life; some change we have an input and other changes we don’t.  Have you thought about change as a positive event?  Or that change can be the springboard t a better life?

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5/17 Life Law #3: “You create your own experience”

Posted by on July 2, 2013marketing at 12:21 am

Life Stratagies - McGrawHere is another adaptation of Dr. Phil McGraw’s book called ‘Life Strategies’.  This is his Third law in the Principles of learning to live the kind of life your Creator meant for you to have.

When you begin to acknowledge and accept the accountability for your own life, you will begin to understand that your role in creating the results you want in yours and God’s hands.

As an adult, you have the responsibility in your hands.  No matter what your life’s circumstances, you can no longer dodge the fact of your own input into where you are today.

5/16 If Your Spouse has a Troubled Past

Posted by on June 24, 2013language at 5:44 pmfeed

Finding good information for the early years of a relationship can lead to interesting places.  Here is a YouTube Video by http://www.stopyourdivorcein4weeks.com to help those couples where one person has had a trouble, girl with seashellsabusive past.  How does the other partner cope?

Uploaded on Sep 11, 2009

“Did YOU Grow Up In a “Chaos Home”? Chaos homes are created when parents who have never dealt with their own Chaos childhood, raise their own children only to give them the same treatment that THEY were given as a child. It is a sad but true fact that Chaos homes produce Chaos Kids.