Category Archive: Mixed topics

Groupings of mixed topics

Aug 03

1/12 Conflict Resolutions asks us to Question the word ‘Fighting’.

1/12 Conflict Resolutions asks us to Question the word ‘Fighting’.

The first hurtle for honest conflict resolution is to question the word ‘Fighting’. Many couples resist the assumptions that this word seems to convey. It has been taboo or ‘gentlemanly’ to expose one’s true concerns. It is better to talk about ‘silly arguments’ or differences rather than face the real issues.

The word ‘fighting’ also makes people uncomfortable as images of aggression block true communication. Control of one’s anger is consider mature and so it is but at what cost. However, learning to express these inner frustrations is far more mature. Pricilla might say “Mickey I love you too much to fight with you. You know that by now.” Act nice no matter what your feelings has become their goal.


Nov 10

10 Things I learned from this series

What your Dad didn’t tell you about the Opposite sex

rejection_1When we began this series on ‘What your Dad didn’t tell you about the opposite sex’. I wonder what can of worms we would open. Some of the insights we would discover together would not be ‘political correct’ in today’s gender equality but …. we began the series.

In even trying to get some framework around this issue, we knew we would run into the deeper issue of the “Battle of the Sexes“. That battle isn’t new to our generation. In fact, it started some 7000 years ago in a place called the Garden of Eden. Yes I am talking about the facts behind the Garden of Eden as that’s where the conflict began.


Oct 15

6/5 ‘The Choice’ by Max Lucado applies to Conflict Solutions

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As we continue to look at the records found in the book of Genesis, we can see so many underlying themes that applied to us today.  Here is a noted author with his comments to the story.  One of my favourite authors, Max Lucado gives us an insight into the choices made by Adam and Eve.  Here is his version of events:


He placed one scoop of clay upon another until a form lay lifeless on the ground.  All of the Garden’s inhabitants paused to witness the event.  Hawks hovered.  Giraffes stretched.  Trees bowed. Butterflies paused on petals and watched.


Jun 24

5/16 If Your Spouse has a Troubled Past

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Finding good information for the early years of a relationship can lead to interesting places.  Here is a YouTube Video by to help those couples where one person has had a trouble, girl with seashellsabusive past.  How does the other partner cope?

Uploaded on Sep 11, 2009

“Did YOU Grow Up In a “Chaos Home”? Chaos homes are created when parents who have never dealt with their own Chaos childhood, raise their own children only to give them the same treatment that THEY were given as a child. It is a sad but true fact that Chaos homes produce Chaos Kids.


Apr 30

5/6 Your Basic Needs for Conflict Solutions?

In order to sort out what areas need to be addressed for the re-construction of our relationship with our partner, we must first find out which of our basic needs are not being met in the relationship.  Remember this is another FOR YOUR EYES ONLY SHEET.

Statement of need:

1 – 10

1. The need to feel, and be told, that you are loved, valued and a vital part of your partner’s life.
2. The need to feel a sense of belonging to and with your partner, that you are a priority in your partner’s life.

Aug 29

Guest Post – The Five Languages of Apology

5 Languages of Apology

Ever had someone say “I’m sorry” but their words don’t really hit the hurt spot that needed to hear an apology?  Sometimes these are just words; there is still a hole in the relationship.  “I’m sorry” becomes too easy, too general for the hurt caused. 

Dr Gary Chapman has written a book that addresses this very issue and offers a solution to help restore communication in relationships.

The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in all Your Relationships by Gary D. Chapman, Jennifer Thomas  (Jan 1, 2008)

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Apr 26

The Differences in the Brains of Males and Females – Guest Post

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 We have found an interesting Guest Post on the scientific difference in male – female brains, from   I’m not sure I agree with all of it but it will get you thinking! 


“The brains of men and women are so physically different they amount to different organs and may have developed from distinct genetic blueprints, new research shows.

“Distinct anatomical differences between male and female brains likely explain many well-established differences of perception and behavior between the sexes, from problem-solving strategies to emotional responses, the Independent reports.


Apr 25

3/7f Males and Females from a Biological Point of View


In this post, we consider the complicated issues relating to the longest running war in history: the battle between the sexes.

 There is plenty of pain, confusion and conflict connected with the discussion of sex roles – even among Christians.

We need to understand the dynamics behind the Garden story in Genesis, to see God’s point of view and help sort out any confusion.  Many of the consequences of Adam and Eve’s actions still affect us today.


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