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Oct 28

Book: Why Women Can’t Read Maps & Men Don’t Listen

Barbara and Allan Pease travelled the world for 3 years collecting and collating the dramatic findings of new Conflict listen 9780767907637research on the brain, investigating evolutionary biology, analysing psychologists, studying social changes, and annoying the locals.  Their aim is to investigate the differences between the way men and women think and communicate.

Here is one of the many great comments about their book:

“The result is their controversial new book: Why Men Don’t Listen and Why Women can’t Read Maps.  The book is sometimes shocking, always illuminating, frequently hilarious look at where the battle line is drawn between the sexes, why it was drawn and how to cross it.

Sep 21

Book: Make Love not Porn

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love not porn_Hardcore pornography is becoming so ubiquitous on the web, it is shaping and distorting the way many of today’s young men and women think about sex and intimacy.

Author Cindy Gallop discovered this through personal experience.

In a bold, honest book, she describes numerous examples of porn-influenced behaviour from the hilarious to the disturbing. “Make Love Not Porn” is part of the new TED Books series. TED Books are short digital books that present a single powerful idea.

From the YouTube videos:



Sep 17

Pornography as part of the Conflict between the sexes

One of the important issues between the sexes and the clarity of self-interest versus being other centred is that of Pornography.  No matter what your view, here is an interesting YouTube on the subject.  Often, we find in counselling that porn can be addictive as well as harmful to any relationship.

If you have a problem with Pornography or know someone who does, watch this video by Mark Brown·100 videos


Here is another interesting YouTube video on the Impact of Pornography On The Male Psyche (Pt.1  Produced by Scurry254624·46 videos


Sep 08

Top 7 Things GUYS Wish GIRLS Knew & What Girls wish Guys knew!

Here is an interesting YouTube on some of the topics we have been covering, published on Aug 12, 2013

What do guys secretly wish girls knew about them? GIRLS.  We asked on our TYTU Facebook and John’s Twitter pages, what’s one thing guys which girls knew? Here are some of your responses!

Then the other side of the story:  7 Things Girls Wish EVERY Guy Knew!  Published on Jan 7, 2014

Ladies – you know those things that drive you CRAZY that you just wish guys would figure out already?! Well here’s your chance to finally tell them! Check out some of the top things TYTU’s female viewers wish guys knew! Tweet:


Sep 05

A Great new Book: The Truth Shall set you Free!


Recently I attended a Book launch for an interested new book: ‘The Truth has set me Free’. The book traced the mation3journey of Marion, who came through many personal disasters. As she faced each event and allowed the Lord to come and heal the woundedness within, Marion found a whole new way of looking at life. In fact, she found a whole new life. Here is some of her story.


Dec 27

What is your Love Language?

What is the language you show when you care about someone?

rejection_1We need to understand our own requirements for a healthy relationship.  Many of us try to run our life on an empty or nearly empty “Love Tank”.  When we live our life without enough emotional connection, our ‘Love Tank’ can become dry and hardened – even to God’s love.  We need our partners to give us types of love that will fill our tanks.

First, rate your own “love Tank” need.  Use a scale of

1 = “I feel less of a need for this.” to

Sep 19

Conflict Solutions – The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work

Book: 7 principles

7 principles9781452651514Recently I found a great book by Dr John Gottman on the Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work. 

We all know making a good marriage or any relationship takes input from all sides as well as som hard work at times.  Certainly learning conflict solutions are of great benefit for all!

Here is a YouTube video pm Dr. Gottman’s book.   I did some research and found this from  alsaccen·1 video on YouTube:


Then I found some great reviews on Amazon. This review is from: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert (Hardcover)

Jun 26

Conflict Solutions presents: ‘Guardians of a Promise: Tamar’s Story’

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cuppa1Celebrate with me!

After four years in production, this is my first ever published novel!  ‘Guardians of the Promise: Tamar’s Story’.  In 1714 BC, a young country girl began the journey of her life.  She was given in marriage to the eldest son of Judah, to Erdad of the tribe of Abraham.

As she began this journey in fear and trembling, Tamar had little idea of the future she would find.

Remember, if you send me an email, I’ll send you a free chapter! 


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