Apr 01

4/28 Summary of Communication Skills with Conflict Solutions

communication skillsIn the first part of our Summary of this Category on Conflict Solutions, we covered the first 14 posts.  Join us now as we finish the summary of the remaining posts and present the next Category in our discussion.

We briefly looked at the importance of knowing your own ‘Fight Style’.  How do you resolve – or avoid – conflicts with others.  Remember, conflict will happens; it’s how we handle the conflict when it comes that helps us grow toward better communication.

True, our fight styles develop as we watch our Family of Origin handle conflicts.  Adding to that, males and females often have different styles of facing issues.  Some couples get into a ‘Dance of Death’ style which repeats the same old, same old patterns again and again until one persons says enough!

Here we presented 12 different fight styles and asked you, as the reader, to identify your style with a Personal Worksheet of 77 questions.   If you haven’t worked this through, I would highly recommend you explore your own fight style as this is the foundations for resolving conflicts.

Along the line, we have tried to present practical steps to learn to resolve sharon1conflicts.  We have even presented a few Guest Posts to make this topic realistic.  We encouraged people to become more assertive in a healthy way, a way that sets out what you need and can ask for without being ‘a doormat’.

Again we go back to what is good communication as a way of ending this category.  Empathy and understanding others are steps along the way.    Here, we presented several Personal Worksheets for you to analyse how you resolve and handle others in conflict situations.

We finished this section by looking at why Males and Females have different Conflict Styles.  We can learn valuable lessons in the origins of our original design.  The two sexes were never designed to be in conflict but to work as a team, resolving and settling life with our Creator’s patterns.  All our sources used in this category as listed for y our further reading.

So we come to end of this category on Communication Skills in Conflict case study ChelseaSolutions….but where next?  Many of the problems we face with others began in the early stages of our relationships.  This is especially true when we looked at Jocko and Chelsea.  For many of our readers, this next section may seem not to apply to their world but remember, basic principles of communication apply to everyone.

With basic communication skills, an understanding of our Family or Origin and Boundary issues, we now enter into ‘Conflicts During the Early Years of Relationships’.  So join us as we continue with Jock and Chelsea, Guest Posts, recommended books and other valuable principles of Conflict solutions.

Sources used in this Study:

Arond, Miriam & Pauker, Samuel.  The First Year of Marriage, Warner Books, NY, USA, 1987.  ***

Barshinger, Clark, LaRowe, Lojan & Tapia, Andres.  Haunted Marriages, Intervarsity Press, Illinois, USA, 1995.  ****

Bach, George & Wyden, Peter.  The Intimate Enemy, Avon Books, NY, USA, 1968. ****

Bach, George & Deutsch, Ronald.  Paring, Avon Books, NY, USA, 1970.

Fengler, Daniel & Susan.  Dealing with Difficult People, Seminar for Youth for Christ, Melbourne, Australia, 1998,

Hendrix, Harville.  Getting the Love You Want, Schwartz & Wilkinson, USA, 1988.

Lerner, Harriet Goldhor.  The Dance of Anger, Harper & Row, NY, USA, 1989.
McGraw, Dr. Philip C.  Relationship Rescue, Vermillion Press, London, England, 2000. ***

Narramore, Bruce.  You’re Someone Special, Zondervan Publishing, Michigan, USA,1981.

Paul, Drs. Jordan & Margaret   Do I Have to Give up Me to be Loved by You,

Phillips, Bob.  Dancing with Porcupines, Regal Books, California, USA, 1977.

We trust that this series has been helpful to you in your own communication with others.  Remember to leave us a comment!

Susanne Fengler. Blog Author


suicide 2cPS. Don’t forget to check out my FIRST book from Kindle/Amazon: ‘At the Time of Her Death: Suicide Intervention’



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