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Apr 25

5/5 General Marriage Survey on Conflict Solutions

male female tug of warTo help you evaluate the current state of your marriage, we have prepared the following survey form. There are 12 major areas that are showed to be of concern when couples are prepared to examine their relationship.

We have listed these 12 areas. Rate your satisfaction with each of these 10 areas for your own information first. Then on the second line, add a score for what you think your partner would feel about the area.

Use the 1 = needs a lot of work to 10 = doing very well in this area.

1. Overall satisfaction with the Marriage – General feelings you have about the overall state of your relationship: growth or declining, etc.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

2. Personality Adjustment – The way that you and your partner have adapted and adjusted to each other’s moods, attitudes and responses.  This means the openness to discuss versus growing anger, bitterness, etc.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

3. Communication skills – The ability to express feelings, willingness to be listened to, the levels of response and recognition with partner and a growing intimacy and understanding between you and your spouse.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

4. Conflict Resolution Skills – How well you and your partner resolve conflicts with problems solving methods versus harmful ways of settling disputes. Assertiveness when needed, talks issues through versus ‘bury under the carpet’.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

5. Financial Management – How well do your spending habits, financial goals, budget skills and money issues reflect good understanding of each other and unified goals.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

6. Agreement on Leisure Activities – Harmony in decisions on common activities as well as given individual use of time and interests.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

7. Children and Parenting – Unity on when and how many children. Discussion on parenting skills such as discipline, expectations of children, use of time with children and the place children will have in your life.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

8. Sexual Expectations and Relationship within the Marriage – General satisfaction with sexual openness, affection needs, spontaneity and shared pleasure within the marriage.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

9. Agreement on Involvement with Friends and Family – General unity on roles of in-laws, time spent with friends, shared friends versus individual friends.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

10. Spiritual Unity in the Marriage – Shared or an agreement on the place of spiritual and cultural values between you and spouse, role of children in spiritual areas, open discussion versus judgmental, dogmatic.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

11. Roles in the Relationship – unity on who makes the decisions, the household chores, work outside the home, how male/females roles shared or delegated.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

12. Overall expectation levels with the marriage – growing versus little effort to learn skills to make marriage better for both partners.

Your Rating: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

Your Partner’s view: 1……………………. 5……………………..10

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Go back through and notice any of the 12 areas that you might need to work on for yourself. Write down any comments you might want to ‘share’ with your partner. However, please don’t try and ‘force’ your partner to address the needs but work with constructive ways to bring about change – first in yourself. As you change, so will your partner – one way or another.

We will be addressing each of these areas for your growth in coming articles. I hope this survey has been of help to identify areas you wish to explore further,

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author

www.conflictsolutions.mentorsnotebook.com

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