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Sep 19

Conflict Solutions – The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work

7 principles9781452651514Recently I found a great book by Dr John Gottman on the Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work. 

We all know making a good marriage or any relationship takes input from all sides as well as som hard work at times.  Certainly learning conflict solutions are of great benefit for all!

Here is a YouTube video pm Dr. Gottman’s book.   I did some research and found this from  alsaccen·1 video on YouTube:


Then I found some great reviews on Amazon. This review is from: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert (Hardcover)

“This book is a very reasonable as well as a good scientific approach to marriage. Many marriage-oriented books offer logical short-term band-aids (e.g., focusing on perceived Mars/Venus gender differences, communicating better, smoothing over conflicts) that make for a provocative read and/or admirable goals, but by and large fail in the long-run to resuscitate shaky marriages.

“Many people wouldn’t think that a fit marriage has to be exercised regularly.  However, marriage is like one’s body that is benefited through regular workouts.  His book serves as the ultimate guide to marital fitness, yet is a valuable read even if you are unmarried or have already experienced a failed marriage.

“Good marriages don’t necessarily have fewer conflicts than bad ones. Dr Gottman gets under the surface and digs into such deeper issues as the maintaining of HONOUR and RESPECT for your partner in the heat of all-too-common battles.

“My question, why isn’t there a mandatory course in marriage at the high school level that incorporates Dr Gottman’s research – or any valuable skills? Wouldn’t the knowledge gained be of as much or more importance than any other accumulated as teenagers head into adulthood? I consider topics such as those raised by Dr Gottman to be of enormous value for my daughters to read (and discuss!) when they reach their mid-teens…better too early than too late!

“The book is based upon scientific research, not opinion; not just another ‘feel good’ pop-psych book. It takes you inside the conflicts of real couples, and reveals the four marriage-killers, and the seven, very do-able skills to acquire to make a marriage work. I’ve read a lot of books trying to save my marriage. Some of them had some good things that truly helped. But it wasn’t enough help. It never got to the root of the problem, and it left us both feeling like ‘we have to completely change ourselves if we want to stay married’. Following the principles outlined in this book is FAR easier and FAR more effective than most other books I’ve read.”

Here is another person’s comments:fidelity couple2

“John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life’s work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship.

“Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.”

Thanks for these two reviews of this really great book!

You’ll find this great book on The Book Depository HERE!  Free shipping anywhere in the world! http://www.bookdepository.com/secen-principles-for-making-a-marriage-work/?a_aid=kimbo72

Susanne Fengler, Blog Author



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